Princesses or Pirates
Discipleship and active/passive gender distinctions in the Gospels
Are you a princess or a pirate? Earlier this year I was touring a children’s play centre in Tasmania when one of my colleagues asked me this very penetrating question – well Megan, are you a princess or a pirate?
What a choice! If I were a child having my birthday party at this church-run venue, would I choose the beautiful, pink and silver princess room, taking for myself as party girl the glamorous and exalted role of the princess wearing her tiara, or would I choose a party on the pirate ship, playing the part of the cut-throat and adventurous Blue Beard, with my parrot on my shoulder, and wielding my swashbuckling sword?
To complicate matters, my choice was extended beyond just parties, because in the play area were two giant posters, listing affirming adjectives for boys and girls. He is… the first poster declared, courageous, strong, and honoured. She is… precious, beautiful, and loved.
Did that “she” describe me? On the one hand I certainly hoped so – as a person in Christ I know I am precious in God’s sight and loved beyond my imagination. And yet, something didn’t sit right, and not just with my all-girls private school education, I hoped. There seemed to be something amiss in the way that the boys were being encouraged in the name of Jesus to value their active, outward looking traits, and yet the girls… well, the girls were given more passive, inward-looking attributes to embrace. Beauty. Status. Value.